Trouble in the Sea of Love? Calm the Waters, Find the Answer:

A break up is a complicated thing. It makes you feel as though all hope is lost, but in reality it is an opportunity. An opportunity to realize what went wrong in the first place. A chance to rediscover a love that went awol. No matter how hard it may be now just now that it is possible to save your relationship, and I am going to show you the first steps you should be taking on your journey toward reconnection!

Now, I know it is easy to resort to begging, but believe me there is no worse method for re-establishing a relationship. Leaving messages on your ex's phone whimpering telling them how sorry you are paints you in a weak light, and if by some miracle your ex doesn't change their phone number and takes you back it will not be the relationship you want. You will never be looked at as a dependable partner because to them you will always be that begging, whimpering, puppy that couldn't hold it together or take care of themselves when times got rough. So, leave the begging to the animals and turn your sights on the 3 steps you should bee taking to get back with your ex.

1 -Accepting the break-up is the most challenging and most essential part of reconnection.

You cannot go about your days as if the break up never happened, and you definitely cannot approach your ex like this either. If you do it puts you into a category you don't want to be in... STALKER!

You don't want this and neither does your ex. Allow yourself to grieve, trust me, you'll be better for it. Closure for your relationship allows you to take a more honest look back at what went wrong and what went right.

2 - Break ups are not fixed with phone calls!

Do yourself a favor and hide your phone until you have had time to grieve and sort through what happened. Do not call and apologize unless you have something to apologize for. Empty apologies mean nothing! If you have taken time and reflected on what went wrong, and find that you do have something to apologize for then you may. This can show that you are mature enough to accept your faults and that the relationship means more to you then pride. But, I still recommend be cautious with the phone it has to be the right time.

3 - Plan For Reconnection After you have had a chance to grieve and sort out your emotions it is time to plan for the when and where of reconnecting. Don't attempt to get back with your ex unless you find that you are truly in love with them. It is never right to play with someone's emotions. But if you have found that you are in love then by all means re-establish contact and start with rekindling friendship. Allow your relationship to re-progress naturally. It takes time but to use an old cliche "good things come to those who wait."

Just remember, the best thing you can do before re-establishing contact is to have a plan of action.

You have total control of the direction your relationship will take. You have a choice of failure, or success. I'm sure you'll agree that since your here you want your relationship to succeed. If so, then take control. Don't wait for someone else to make the first move. Visit MakingUpTheEasyWay.info and save your relationship today!